Will means deciding now

Drop “someday.” Tonight you pick a step and you keep it. Period. “Be doers of the word, and not hearers only” (James 1:22, ESV). “For it is God who works in you to will and to act” (Philippians 2:13, NIV). God supplies power; you choose action.

What kills couples (and how to end it)

Excuses (“I’m wiped”), escape (phone), sharp lines. Cut it: name energy (“I’m at 60%”), hold a sacred 15-min slot, deliver one fact + one need, repair if you snapped.

The protocol that forces action (3×15 this week)

1) Face-to-face 15 min (3 nights). Phones away, timer on.
2) Turns: 2 min each, no interrupt; listener reflects 1 sentence.
3) Do it tonight: each picks 1 task doable in 24h (dishes, email, kid pickup). No debate: do it.
4) Specific thanks: one real gratitude each.
5) One-line prayer: “Lord, give us gentleness and strength to act today.”

Immediate examples (zero excuses)

After work: park the phone 15 min. Money: cancel one subscription now. Conflict: water + 60s breathing, ban “always/never,” ask for one concrete thing. Tired: say it, don’t hide behind it.

Simple score (moving or making excuses)

This week tick: [ ] Mon 15’ kept [ ] Wed 15’ kept [ ] Fri 15’ kept. Miss one? Run it tomorrow. No drama, just action.

Hard but helpful reminder

You don’t wait for motivation; you create it by doing. God carries the weight; you take the step. Today > someday.